As individuals we sometimes will get frustrated and even upset with life and especially yourself when big changes such as breakup or divorce happend’s. Changes is life is inevitable ,however are are not always or you could say never really prepared fully for it as no one can really pre-soppose thir feelings in the area of love and emotional energy . A Divorce woman or a woman who as just lost the access to her life partner through a dovorce or break up will never be prepared for such a lost. As this is a change which will reside in a pernamaent lost which will bring much discontentmnet and fustrayed energy .

When this happends in most cases the Divorce woman or heartbroken woman is not going to think firstly how do i get over this feeling .No in most cases she will bury herself so deep in grief that she any loose herself completely if she or someone close to her does not see what this loss and shock is doing to her .

This is where a complete change in mindset or a complete reprogramming of the way in which this loss is interpreted is need. Below i will give you six tips on how any woman can begin to reprogram her mindset after her Divorce .

Let go of the frustration of your Divorce by

Remember Love should never hurt ,if it does then start thinking what love really supposed to be for you

Tip 1-Start by seeing the relationship as ended because that is the way it is supposed to be. This is one chapter of your life which as come to a close.See the good times you had and be grateful, however, also see the obstacles and know that living in such a way was not making you happy.

Tip 2-Stop hating and blaming your now ex-husband for the breakup or divorce, hate and blame will only affect you , it will tour you up inside, it will make you bitter and unattractive to friendship, it will make others run away from you, negative thoughts will only breed negativity. Instead try to see ways how you can recover from your loss, or even better stop seeing it as a loss and instead as an opportunity to start afresh as your ex is now doing.

Tip 3- Start thinking about your life now that you are divorce in a positive way ,how would you like your life to be ,and start listing what you need to do in order to get that life you are now thinking about . No is the time to really give yourself the chance to live a life on your terms .

Tip 4 – Be open with family and friends as much as you can about your feelings it will help you to become confident and build that new pathway in dealing with life without your ex-husband . Maybe you are also now a divorce mom . Link your energy with other divorce parent and start building new friendship ,see how other divorce women or mothers and living in a positive way .

Tip 5 – Get counselling if you need it ,however remember the counsellor is only there to guide and support you ,you will still need to do the work to transform your mindset ,and rebuild your life . Do not become dependent on the counsellor and by that i mean do not develop a negative attachment . Remember you are there to get help ,not just to cry and pass on the blame .

Tip 6 -Remain or get active ,if you were an active person ,hold on to that aspect of yourself it will support you in maintaining a healthy mind and lifestyle ,and a healthy mind is ready to be rehabilitated and reprogram . Excercise will also help you to relieve nad physical and mental stress and again keep you fit and attractive . Its important to feel good about yourself regauardless of what is happeninh or as happening in your life ,its also important to look good as the outer immage is what is presented ,people will see your face your cloths your smile ,they will not see how you are feeling however the outer image can reflect or can hide the way you are feeling so ,choose what you want other to think when they see you by the way you dress and present yourself ,the choice is yours,rememeber you are divorce not dead ,and whiles there is life there is hope for a better life .

Start taking simple steps to becoming happy again or in some cases to find that happy you .

The mind has all the power you need to bring whatever you so desire you just need to let it do its job by choosing your thoughts wisely, your thoughts are what feeds the mind. Keep those thoughts positive.

Still feeling lost and confused after your Divorce -still don’t know where to start making your own path now you are single again

Many can relate to this state of mind ,in such an event ,and many can also relate to getting over this state of mind . If you are dealing with or has gotten over your Divorce loss and confusion ,or still in this state .Please share your story with us ,we love to help you or love to know how you got through your pain. # sharing is caring

How weak a link are you in making relationship decisions

When will you have your light-buld moment ?There’s an important realisation all SMART and LOVING women come to at some point in their love lives.

It’s a “light bulb” that suddenly just turns on… and when it does, you instantly grow and see things with a new sense of CLARITY.

Unfortunately, most women only come to this important realization AFTER they’ve been through the pain and frustration of doing everything they can think of to “revive” their relationship and failing. I’ll tell you what this REALIZATION is:

It’s that when you’re with a man who is feeling or acting UNCERTAIN with you – even if you could give him an “ultimatum” that would move things ahead to the place in your relationship that YOU WANT – you’re in a very dangerous and “weak” position for your relationship. He’s not really making that decision based on what HE wants or feels.

It’s a weak position because you really want and need a man who is truly COMMITTED to being with you on a physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual level. Not coerced, not forced, not convinced. COMMITTED. Totally and with all his being. For you to realise this yourself you need to change your approach

For a deep look inside how men really think and what you need to change with your and approach on love and getting him to transform to a truly loving and committed relationship with a you, and how to help a man recognise and do the things that will make your relationship LAST…join me in a 1 -1 session on lasting love and true commitment ,or just follow this post where i will be giving you all the tips you need to make him recognise all the things he should be doing and light

Be Kind To Yourself

This is important ,we should be all apply self love its very important in growth and self healing .Give yourself a break to relax and recharge,and shouldn’t feel guilty or selfish for looking after number one . No matter what your situation your physical and mental health should always comes first . You are important .

Things to do to keep your self care


2.Go outside

3.Enjoy some rest

4. Eat well

5.Have a warm soaking bath

6.Create a self care playlist

7.Say no

8.Write an achievable to do list

9.Get creative

10.Learn something new

Re-program your mindset after Divorce

Learn to re-program your subconscious mind to get over grief and trauma ,deception and deceptiveness from your marriage,relieving you of your pain and releasing you to rebuild a new and prosperous life ,with new mindset ,new opportunity ,new and better relationship with self and others.Start with taking control of your emotions ,by taking control of your mind ,change your paradigm.learn how to this and more ,start with a free 20 minutes discovery Antoinette and get started today .

Hi there am Antoinette R. Clarke aka (VARC) welcome to my blog happy to have you here :)

Who am I ,well I wear several hats ,firstly am a mother of 4 son’s ,I am a daughter ,sister ,friend ,civil servant ,counsellor Psychologist ,Life Transition Coach ,NPL Coach ,Women Empowerment Coach ..and most of all am a person who enjoys helping others to find the positive regardless of situation or challenges .

My mission in life is help transform the lives of as many people as possible . I focus on areas such as Relationship Transformation ,From Broken heart to a life of love ,happiness and fulfilment ,from Divorce pain to Recovery and life on your own terms. Building confidence ,self love and self belief .

I would love to connect with people who are looking to make permanent positive changes in there lives ,but feeling stuck ,so i can help them along there pathway ,or they can see that there are others just live themselves out there, wanting that same change ,and be hopeful that they can make that change . Individuals who have family issues and need that change ,Divorce women ,Breakups of long term relationship .Women who want to start dating however is unsure of how to start again .

We all have something in life which we can use to enhance not just our live ,but the lives of others .I enjoy writing hence I decided in addition to me supporting others in there bit for a new life ,I will also provide useful tips on how they can help themselves to do so in my absence ,and what better place than right here. I will be giving tips on how to Reprogram your mind for success,How to recover from any emotional lost such as a Divorce or Bereavement ,How to connect with your inner self to start believing in who you are or who you want to become .

How to turn that Negative energy into Positive

This a very common saying but how much of us really know what it means .How many of us hard tasted the lemon of life ,that bitter pain that comes with disappointment that brings negative to your life ,lost of love ones,lost of a job ,lost of a marriage ,lost which cannot be expressed with words ,just the hot tears that slowly melt down your face . I have experience that negative ,in more ways than one ,however those negative energy i have cast in my pot of change into positive ,mainly by shifting my mindset ,meaning how to decide to interpret my experience ,what i decide my experience of that negative means ,and have turned it into a positive ,for example a got a ticket for speeding going 22 miles per hour in a 20 miles a hour zone ,at first i was furious ,saying really what the heck,then i thought about it ,i do drive a bit fast ,maybe this is a sign for me to slow down and be more careful ,or is this a message to tell me slow down or you might have a more serious consequence on my hand . I took the ticket as a positive warning to be aware of my speed as who is going to tell me to slow down really ,no one ,so this is just one example i have experience recently where i decide to turn what appear to be a negative into a positive .i have numerous events that i have transform into the sweet taste of positive and success ful energy of purpose and love ,sweet taste of emotional freedom ,sweet taste of abundance and love . How did i do that ,well in some instances its having the desire to over come the negative ,that feeling of not being incontrol of your own situation or what affects you ,this is where i started at times ,it all depends on the situation .Just hold in mind you were never born to be captivated by negative energy or negative things hence when it comes you have to rise above it and shine like the star that you are



Life Transformation starts with a desire of wanting change and ,taking the actions necessary.

What ever it is that is no longer suited to the life you want to live or the person you choose to be ,making that promise to change to yourself is where it all starts . Why are you not making that promise today . How many excuses will you give ,how many news years resolution will you have but not follow through .

Am sure you have heard the saying procrastination is the mother of all failure .It

one thing to fail an exam or a test ,but to fail yourself is another ball gain ,who do you blame ,oh the classic blame game ,oh i had no support ,,so what ? the bible tells us seek and we shall find ,so that ends your excuse . Be brave be bold and make the change in your life which you know you deserve ,give yourself that chance to be the best person you can be is only a ask away . Life is liquid it not stat,,everything changes ,Life transformation is growth ,,growth is why we exist .

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